Soul & Heart blog
by Susanne Jonsson
Why boundaries? Why is it so difficult?
Most of us are empathetic human beings, that is, we want to help. We would like to help with most things ... whether we have the time or not, whether we are able or not.
I think many will recognize themselves in this. It is so simple to say "yes" when someone asks.
To take an extra project at work - because the boss wanted it.
Being treasurer of the Voluntary Association because nobody else said yes.
Being a class parent because it's not so much work.
To always be the one that transport children to all activities, because it's fun - really.
To always be the one that fixes gifts at someone's birthday - because you're so good at it.
To always be the one that take care of most things at home, in the garden and so forth
To always ...
Yes, the list is endless and it is about both big and small things that we actually likes to do and things that feels important to do.
The problem is that if you always do all these things, you will yourself be exhausted - and maybe sick, and then nothing will work at all.
Setting boundaries are difficult for many people, but extremely important - Maybe it's time that you begin to set new boundaries in your life?
Stress can create fatigue, irritation, or perhaps a feeling of powerlessness.
That is not true. Of course you are good enough - really - you just have to realize that you have to opt out of some commitments in your life.
No one is able to do everything, although many try to do it.
What you need to do is simply learn to say "no."
You will notice that there will not be the reaction you expect from those around you, perhaps they become slightly surprised, but ... the world will not collapse! I promise!
The thing is that most people actually know that we need to be a bit careful with ourselves and not do more than we can handle.
- Do I want to? - Can I do it? - Do I have the energy?
Thank You For Your Interest
// Susanne Jonsson
Soul & Heart Journey School